Inspired by Sandy C. Newbigging and Eckhart Tolle

Body Bashing is having recurrent negative, critical or abusive thoughts or feelings about your own physical appearance and sexual attractiveness. 
 
If you sometimes or often think:
  “I hate my thighs/boobs/belly/bum” 
 “I’m fat and ugly”
 “I’m too disgusting to be seen naked”
 That is body bashing! 

Regular body bashing harms your enjoyment of your natural sensual sexuality as a woman and your ability to have intimate connection.  Body bashing thoughts also harm your physical health by causing levels of health-giving nitric oxide to plummet and stress hormones to rise, adversely affecting blood sugar and insulin, leading to fatigue and weight gain, and increasing the risk of degenerative diseases, and breaking down immunity!
 
Just think how good it would feel if instead you were thinking:
 “My body is sooooo beautiful”
 “My thighs/boobs/belly/bum is/are gorgeous”
 “I’m so fantastically womanly”
 
Body loving thoughts not only feel good they have positive effects on your physical health by releasing nitric oxide which improves circulation getting more life-giving oxygen to every cell in your body faster and heightening sexual experiences through increased blood flow to breasts and genitals.  Plus levels of feel-good chemicals, such as serotonin and beta-endorphin, increase.
 
Top Six Tips to Beat Body Bashing
 
Tip #1: Positive Affirmations
Each time you catch yourself body bashing flip the script and say something positive and body affirming instead. My belly’s disgusting and huge turns into my belly is curvylicious and beautiful.  It’s absolutely possible to create neural pathways that favour affirming thoughts!
 
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When you find yourself in the middle of an argument with your partner
and you seem to be getting nowhere,
see if you can both agree to work it through
with a change in communication style.

Instead of both of you heatedly trying to get heard,
talking over each other
feeling side-tracked by the direction and momentum of the argument,
try some "Uninterrupted Listening".

One of you will speak, one of you will listen silently
then the roles will swap.

When it is your turn to speak
say everything you want to say,
without worrying what order it comes out in,
taking the time you need to formulate and express your thoughts and feelings
allowing silences if you need them
until you feel you have "emptied out"
all that you need to say,
then let your partner know that you're done
and it's their turn to speak.

Now it's your turn to listen without interrupting
looking at your partner,
to show that you are actively listening.
No need to interrupt them as it will be your turn again,
when they are done and have handed "the floor" back to you.

You can both take as many turns
as the situation needs,
only swapping roles when the person speaking
has fully finished and is ready to listen again.
                                                                                                                                                                 Inspired by Relate

Use the healthy emotion of anger in your heart
to create a healthy boundary around your body
and around your space* 
                          *the proprioceptive area around your body 
                            within which your animal senses
                            can feel what is going on 
                            to about an arm's length in all directions around you.
Claiming your space on this Earth,
Giving you a sense of clear spaciousness
in which you have room to "be".

                                                                  Inspired by Karla McLaren "The Language of Emotions"

When you notice yourself feeling squashed, low in energy, or "stuck"
try becoming aware of all the "shoulds" in your head
that may be weighing you down,
zapping your va va voom,
or unconsciously criticising you for being wrong,
for not doing these "shoulds" in the past, present or future.

Write I SHOULD... at the top of a piece of paper,
finish the sentence in as many ways as you can.
Then change each sentence from starting with I should
to "If I really wanted to, I could..."

You might just discover why you haven't done some of these "should":

Maybe you don't want to.
Maybe someone else said you should, but actually you don't agree.
Maybe it's a crazily unrealistic and unachievable expectation.
Maybe it's not actually all that important.
Maybe you don't even need to.

As you give yourself the freedom to connect with your heart over your head
by saying "If I really wanted to, I could",
you might discover that you can drop one
or many things off your inner "Should" list
with a sense of relief
and a resurgence in energy for the things you actually want to do!

                                                                       Inspired by Louise L. Hay, You Can Heal Your Life, pages 15 to 17

For support in becoming free of your inner "Shoulds"
                                        and connecting more with your heart's desires:

Next time you catch yourself berating yourself, criticising yourself or telling yourself off,
rather than believing this voice of the "inner critic" and feeling crap inside,
or perhaps trying to fight against it by pushing it away,
or trying hard to consciously love yourself despite its harping on at you,
Instead: consciously work on loving the one inside you who is criticising!

Say to that part of yourself that is criticising you: 
"Ah honey, I know you wanted me to do better, I know you're disappointed sweetie, I know you want me always to do a perfect job, but it's ok, I love you! And I appreciate you for wanting the best for me."

As you practice this over time,
gradually you will find,
your Inner Critic is actually just
another face of your little Inner Child,
the one who is young and vulnerable inside you,
who worries about what other people think,
who is actually just crying out for love and appreciation
and thinks it needs you to behave perfectly
to be worthy of that love.

When you can give that nurturing love and appreciation to your Inner Critic,
you discover the little Inner Child behind it
hungry for love.

And wondrously, your own love is enough!

                                                                                                   Inspired by Matt Kahn, TrueDivineNature.com